Saturday, October 11, 2014

Fragments

Today finds us at the boat enjoying our granddaughter, her honey and my great granddaughter Audi. This is the last weekend for them to play on the runabout for this year. It's time to put her to sleep for the winter. They have had lots of fun this summer/early fall playing all over the California Delta.

It's also been a very trying week on the home front. Hubbies 94 year old mother needs placed in long term care and she's not liking it one bit. Hubbies middle sister, that's been taking care of mother for 20+ years, ended up in the hospital on Sunday with a laundry list of issues. We are being told that she will never be able to care for anyone anymore. So, the need to place mother. We have temporary help that is taking care of mother, but that is just temporary. For those of you that have dealt with this issue you know the hours spent and the miles that have piled up this week. Hubby needed a weekend at the boat. Stressful to say the least.

I'm still working on my change of watch for November 1, 2014 at Marina West Yacht Club. Pretty much have everything dialed in, but am working on the RSVPs and the last minute issues. I'll be glad when it's over and we can get on with the year.

I wish everyone a terrific weekend filled with smiles and much love.
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  1. sorry to hear about your mother in law and sister in law. Not an easy situation for anyone involved. Hugs and prayers for all of you :)

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    1. It's been a long time coming. We've kept mom home for a very, very long time. Can't do it anymore. :)

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  2. I have been where you're with a mother-in-law who had to be put into a nursing home. Not easy, even when you know in your heart it is the only thing that can be done. Hang in there, while yours and your husband's emotions run all over the map. Hopefully, in a month or so she will accept the change. Healing thoughts coming your way for all concerned.

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    1. Thanks for the kind words. It's been stressful and then some. :)

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  3. I never had to do that but I understand that must be such a hard thing to do for all of you. You and Zane and the Mother in law and the sister in law sure will be in our thoughts and prayers. Glad you have the boat for something to do. Take care all of you.

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    1. We needed to go to the boat to get a break from all of this. Everything that needs doing has been done for now. We're waiting on some paperwork, and then all will be done except for the move. :)

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  4. Sending hugs and love to you and Zane and his mother. One of life's toughest times for sure. xoxo

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    1. Thanks Barb. You're a wonderful friend. :)

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  5. Sorry to hear about the family situation. Last year I was i this same situation. My mother got sick, was sent to the hospital and we told that she had dementia was unable to go back to her retirement home. She was in the hospital for 5 months until a nursing home was located for her in June. She hated the place but we couldn't assist her by keeping her at my home. She needed more help that I could help her with. My wife & I went to see her almost every day until she passed away in November. It was strenuous time for the two of us even having me having to go to the hospital in September. I miss my mother but life has to go on and we have. Keep strong my good friends. Sandee & Zane, you'll be in our prayers. See ya.

    Paul

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    1. And mother needs more help than we can give her too. It's hard but it needs doing. :)

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  6. oh gosh honey i sure do know what a week you have had! bless her heart, i understand her feelings too. not good on any side of that situation. roche' says she needs a "rock" to lean on now...

    hugs, bee
    xoxoxoxoxo

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    1. It's been quite trying. Love you both. :)

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  7. Sandee,

    I can feel your pain. A few years back we had to place my mom in a Nursing Home.
    She hates it and has basically given up on life.
    Our only condolence is that she is a Christian and we'll see her again one day.
    I only get to see her once a year because of the distance.
    My siblings see her regularly.
    We won't be able to see her this year because of finances.
    Finding a good Nursing Home is hard. Is there a good one?
    I pray you'll be able to find a fairly decent one. XOXOXO

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    1. If we get accepted we are putting her in the nicest place that we know of. We have our fingers crossed. :)

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  8. Sorry to hear this about your mother and sister in law I hope your sister in law gets better soon and you sort things soon for mum in law it is not nice having things like this happen.

    My aunt had to be put in a home for her own safety she has Alzheimer's which came on very fast she became quite uncontrollable.

    Have a peaceful day Sandee ;-h

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    1. Mom is sharp as a tack, but she's so frail. Thanks for the kind words Steve. :)

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  9. awww Sandee- my heart goes out to everyone. You are doing the right thing. Big hugs and my thoughts are with you and your family.

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    1. Thanks Kathe, it's been most trying. :)

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  10. My peep's grandmother lived for decades in a little house on 26th in San Mateo. She was dead against going into a "booby hatch" as she called it. After the last live-in helper quit and nobody else wanted to take her on, there was no choice but to sell the house and move her to a booby hatch in Burlingame near Peninsula Hospital. She lived to be 103 and never forgave her daughters for selling the house and putting her into the booby hatch.

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    1. Oh yikes. I hope that doesn't happen with mom. :)

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  11. Stressful for sure. So sorry to hear. Not good for anyone, but needs doing. Enjoy your w/e.

    Big hugs, honey...

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    1. We knew it was coming honey, and it finally arrived. Love you. :)

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  12. I think a lot of people are dealing with this issue right now and those who aren't, will someday! I need to get long term care insurance because I don't have children to take care of me when I'm old! I'm thinking a retirement home on the beach somewhere...but I don't think long-term care quite covers that!

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    1. I would like the room next to yours okay. On the beach works for me. :)

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  13. It's sometimes hard with the moms and dads, how to handle things we have to handle. All four of ours passed, three where Mrs. Jim and I got pretty involved before. My MIL had her own home miles from anyone in Louisiana. Mrs. Jim took her for a 'ride' to Texas then, and while she was gone my BILs and I moved her things into a little senior apartment here. Then at 'going home time' Mrs. Jim said they couldn't go back to Louisiana because while they were gone the 'men' had moved all her things here.
    :-? Later, after a heart attack she had a few months in the nursing home but never recover good enough to come back to her apartment.
    I.e. we kidnapped her in bringing her to Texas.

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    1. You did what needed doing as we are. Things just happen and we have to do the best we can. :)

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  14. I'm sorry to hear the news about your mother-in-law and her daughter. Big hugs to you because I know that kind of stress is easy to pile up, esp. when the issues are w/people who are close to us. On an up note, I'm glad to hear you're enjoying time with your grand grands. :) Happy rest of the weekend to you!

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    1. We are enjoying our family this weekend. It's time to step away for a minute. Can't do anything else until Tuesday. :)

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  15. M y thoughts are with you--had my mother-in-law here with us but she was already on hospice when she came but what a hard time it was and she only lasted a month and did not want to go in a home but any longer and we most likely would had to--hopeful all will work out for her and your sister-in law being sick sucks,I just want to feel better fast :( :)

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    1. I remember you going through this recently. It was and awful time. I remember. :)

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  16. Dear Sandee, These are trying stressful issues and heartfelt decisions to make. I will keep you and your family in my prayers that all is worked out and all will be well.
    I am glad that you are taking the weekend to have some time to refresh yourselves and smile a bit.
    Blessings dear and a hug, Catherine xo

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    1. Thank you Catherine Spending time with family this weekend is helping relieve the stress. Big hugs back. :)

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  17. Hugs to Zane. That has to be stressful. I hope you are able to find a good place for her quickly and the transition goes easily!

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    1. Everything is in motion and we have an application in to a very nice place. I just hope it works out and soon. :)

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  18. Relax when you can ... I am! c-)

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    1. We are Odie. There's nothing we can do until Tuesday, so we're going to stay on the boat for another night. It's been wonderful. :)

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  19. Dear Sandee, so sorry to hear about these hardships. Must be a lot of stress on everyone. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way :)

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    1. More stress on mother than on us. Thanks for the positive thoughts and prayers. :)

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