Saturday, April 9, 2011

A Question

Recently I was ask the question below and it gave me pause. Wow what day would I want to relive again and why. At first I thought about a really fun day that I would like to relive again. Then I thought about making a wrong right. Then I thought about a day that perhaps I could change an outcome for the better. I thought long and hard.

It finally boiled down to what was most precious to me. I would want to spend any day with my mother again. Just one whole day to enjoy her company. She was near and dear to me and after almost 20 years I still miss her terribly.

So will you answer this question. I would love to know how you feel.

If you could re-live a day of your life again, which day would it be and why?

29 comments:

  1. I am blesses to still have both of my parents with me.

    If I had just one day to live over again... In this moment I would have to say that it would be that lovely day my Nana Jo took me into Boston for the day - just the two of us gals! She made me feel so very special and that day she let me believe that I was all grown up! I think I was 10 or 11. We went to lunch and shopping and walked all around Boston! It was one of my fondest days ever.

    Big hugs honey xo

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  2. Boy this is a tough one. So many days and so many possibilities. But I think I would choose like you did. I would pick any day with my dad.

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  3. i'd go back to that day when we last saw james... i would try to stop him from going out that night... and say "i love you too..."

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  4. Holy cow. My initial thought was to remove a post I did that was a big mistake... just a trivial thing. Then I read your answer, read these and realized the hugeness of the question. So many answers:
    -tell my dad as a child that smoking a pipe will kill him.
    -see my dad again
    -talk to Sr. Clotilde, a nun in our family, as an ADULT though
    -tell my friend Matt not to pull the trigger
    -tell MYSELF to be strong and that I don't NEED a man to be whole - and then to NOT marry him!

    Gosh, so many things you could do! Is it just reliving or is it actually CHANGING something. If it is reliving, then for sure going back as a child to be with my family when Dad was alive.

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  5. Wow, that is a hard question. One reason, that it will take my old brain to remember a day that I would like to change. There are a lot of them. But that is a great question. I will ponder it.

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  6. Like you, I would probably pick just one more day with my mother. Really thought-provoking post. Thanks for this.

    Big hugs, honey...

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  7. i think i'd change a day when i lost my temper.

    smiles, bee
    xoxoxoxoox

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  8. My...That's tough indeed. After think about for quite sometime, I still couldn't decide it yet (since there are so many). Maybe I'll come back to this when I've got the answer.

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  9. I don't think any day is worth repeating. I'm not the same person as I was yesterday and any particular day would not have the same meaning the second time as it did the first.

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  10. I fear I must agree with RT Cunningham...I try very hard to keep the past in the past; live today and make plans for tomorrow knowing full well that my plans may come to naught. I try to do that - don't always succeed.

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  11. Each day has it's own singular purpose and affect. Sometimes it not how we felt about a day but how that day affected others.

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  12. Oh yes! I'm with you. It's 27 years for me, and I still miss my mum too :)

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  13. If I caould relive one day with one person it would be Father's Day 1984.It was the last Father's Dad I had with my Dad it was also the best father's Day as well. It was on that day that I tore donw that invisable wall that was between toe two of us.

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  14. I'm afraid that I have too many days that I would like take back and make better to pick just one. However, the one I suppose I would choose a day that gives me joy when I think about, and that would be my wedding day. I married the most wonderful woman in the world almost 37 years ago and I have enjoyed the journey.

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  15. I would love to relive any one of the several thousand days when my kids were small and we all lived (mostly) happily together!

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  16. Ooh, Sandee; what a thought-provoking and difficult question. I agree with Katherine (up above) in that it depends on whether re-living a day means experiencing the exact same day a second time or whether re-living means a re-do or a second chance at a particular day.

    If it is to re-experience a day, probably any one day with my dad, who has been gone 10 years, or my brother, who died last August, or Carroll, who died 2 years ago -- BUT to experience that one day, I'd also have to experience the pain and grief and deep sense of loss at having to let go again.

    Perhaps it's better to enjoy the wonderful memories.

    Great question!

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  17. This is most definitely a tough one to answer as there are just so very many choices. Does one have to relive the day just as it was or can one make changes to the day? For example, if I chose to relive my wedding day could I listen to my Dad's advice and walk the other way this time or would I need to marry the clod all over again?

    If change was doable then my choices would be different but if it was just to relive a single day in time then it would either be any day spent with beloved grandfather or a certain day in late October in Stockton when I was a new dispatcher and met a very handsome police officer who locked my heart away for years as even though there was a lot of hurt in the later years, that one day was simply magical.

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  18. I am with you on this, i would to to spend a day with my mum again who died 11 years ago come October.

    She was a lovely lady and along with my dad who is now 80 gave me and my brother the best upbringing i could have wished for :-)

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  19. Sandee, this is a difficult question. I had to stop and go clean house a bit to think about it. I lost my dad so young that I virtually have no memories of him. I lost my mom when I was fifteen and I still miss her today. It's still a deep longing pain when I think of her, even after all these years. So I think I will have to say just one more day with her, even though that most likely wouldn't help the pain later, because she still wouldn't be here to enjoy James and all the kids. Thanks for making everyone think.

    Hugs,

    Bobbi

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  20. I think I'd want to spend one more day with my brother....I was fortunate to spend so much time with my mama, and since we knew it was almost over...we made the most of it.

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  21. I, like so many others, have a huge list. But if I have to choose just one, it would be a day with my dad, who died in March 1969. He had a massive heart attack at age 50. It was totally unexpected and it's something I've dealt with all of my life. If I could go back as that 21 year old young woman and ask him to forgive me for the heartache I caused. He loved me in spite of who I was...forgiving myself has been the hardest task.
    ~~~Blessings~~~

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  22. Wow! This would be tough. I could give you a list, but to narrow it to just one is hard because everything got me to where I am right now.

    To pick just one, I guess I would relive the day I lost either my Aunt or my Grandfather. Both times I was not there when they finally passed. Everyone else was, but I was not.

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  23. A moment in time 10 years ago at Victoria Park, back home in Aberdeen, scotland with someone who has since died. I would have walked down a different path and maybe things wouldn't have turned out the way they did!

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  24. I actually wish i could live them all over. Even the worst ones would be worth living over, think of everything you could learn, maybe ,ake them better.

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  25. I'm very glad that i still get my family near me. I think every day is warm with their beside me.

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  26. That's a really difficult question. I've been thinking about it for the past 30 mins but couldn't find an honest answer :(

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  27. I am surprised how easily the answer came into my head. I would re-live the very first day of my life, so most of my life would change. (sounds sad, that I want to change almost everything, but I`m just being honest :))

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  28. I concur with most of the commenter's, this is a very hard question.

    For me it would be to relive the day my daughter was born, it was the most happiest and miraculous day of my life. Nothing could top that for me.

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